Allowing Yourself to Heal

Oftentimes it seems as though many people either need to ask themselves or others for permission to heal instead of just taking time to do so.

Many have a certain disjointedness from their mind, body & spirit. Perhaps their self-worth is so low they fail to recognize they can heal themselves, so they seek alternatives, some good, some not so good. But, these folks have forgotten that healing resides so easily within themselves. This quote, from Gabrielle Roth perhaps explains best;

a quote from Gabrielle Roth

a quote from Gabrielle Roth


The point being, we have the ability to heal
ourselves through various means. If you’re
looking for some examples, here are a few.

Hard to Say

Many think that communication is easy,

simply open our mouths while sound emits. But in reality, speaking is an art form.

Our thoughts often impede with what we’re communicating, usually through some form of fear. Usually this fear takes the guise of embarrassment, which can lead to all sorts of feelings such as shame and regret. These thoughts tell us things like what we have to say is dumb, causing conflict, not important, just causing drama, &/or not pleasing for others to hear.

Between All of that and the standard societal designations of what is and isn’t ‘polite’ to say/discuss at the dinner table… Whew….that’s a lot of gunk to sort through before we even say anything!

Speaking not only requires us to be a speech artist but a thought artist too.

Then even more conflict can arise when these fears clash with what our heart-mind tells us to speak freely.

A sufi saying : Before you speak, let your words pass through three gates. At the first gate, ask yourself ‘Is is true.’ At the second gate ask, ‘Is it necessary.’ At the third gate ask, ‘Is it kind.’

However, should one check and find that these thoughts are in fact based on fear, another question must be brought to the mind’s attention…. “what is there to lose/gain by saying this?”

Is it worth it to hold one’s tongue and feel these unpleasant thoughts at the expense of one’s self integrity?

Why hold on to these fears instead of just let go?

Does letting go mean saying things out loud or does it mean realizing that it is anger not heart that is fueling our words?

It’s like inhaling and not exhaling.

We must allow our selves to breathe. In either circumstance.

~written with some help from the lovely Saeng-Fah

The Boss

On many occasions my father has explained that he has chosen various professions so that he may be his own boss. My father has even encouraged me to get a job where I am my boss. I imagine many parents wish this for their children as well.

However, the phrase “being your own boss” is suspect. Ultimately, when is one not their own boss? Isn’t each person responsible for themselves? Nobody is making you make yourself get out of bed every morning to work at your respective employment field and do the things your normally do.  Nobody is making you make yourself decide to work at a profession you may or may not enjoy.

Some might be thinking that they need to work somewhere to pay off debts, travel, because family said so, etc. However, ultimately nobody is making those people make those decisions and do those things. They have made up their own mind to follow the current paradigm set forth by others.


Age’s Perspective

Age doesn’t grant one wisdom, but merely perspective.


There is Nothing to Learn

Learning is only remembering what we already know. 

We are not technically learning anything at all, just re-remembering what was inside of us all along. As we are from source, made up of millions of atoms and molecules that are essentially stardust, all the information of the universe, from source is inside us. Granted, because we are all a different piece to the puzzle called life, we are going to absorb information differently. And some people are going to have different information from us. Those people are here to help us understand/remember those parts we have simply forgotten.

But, we must also remember that we cannot possibly take in/remember all information. This is because we are our own piece to this puzzle.


Being Where You Are

“Where you are outwardly is a reflection of where you are inwardly.”
~a quote from the lovely Light.


The Impatience Syndrome

Today’s society tries patience. And we must remember to breathe when our own patience is being tried.

In an instant we can find “answers” on search engines, microwave meals that are already prepared for us, use an app on our phones to discover what song is playing, use another app to figure out what wines pair with what food, chat with someone on the other side of the world (maybe even talk to them through your computer’s camera), among other things.

But all of these grand advancements have thusly affected our expectations, making us expect all amounts of unreasonable things. In turn, we beat ourselves up when we aren’t “getting over” some deep emotional wound fast enough, we become irritable when our food isn’t cooking fast enough, we become upset when the traffic isn’t moving quick enough (if it’s moving at all).

Then, when one or more of these things occur, suddenly we find ourselves in a veritable storm of short-tempered huffs that often make one unpleasant to be around. While it is healthy to express these frustrations verbally, perhaps one can avoid these unpleasantries all together by looking inward and/or taking a few deep breaths.

Here’s the problem with impatience. Impatience blinds and distracts us. Should one be cooking and feeling impatient for example, the increased chances there is to inadvertently cut, burn or bring harm to oneself, or even messing up the recipe. When driving and feeling impatient, there is an increased risk for us to ignore the traffic laws which is in and of itself potentially bringing harm to others.  This is why breathing &/or reflection in these times is important… it centers us.

As you’re breathing, ask yourself why you are frustrated. After the answer comes to you, ask yourself if these is anything you can do to improve your current situation. If so, why aren’t you doing it? If not, then there’s nothing to be done. Quite simple.

Next time, remember to breathe and remember that everything is amazing and there’s really no reason to be unhappy or impatient, as Louis CK once eloquently explained in the link.


We are always a connection of love

Connection is always.

We are always.

Love is always.

We are love.

We are connected.

Our connection is always.


Learn Let Go

For one to breathe, one must first release their breath, and remember to do so.

In order to go anywhere one must first let go, even if it is something basic like staying in a hotel for a few days.

In order to receive fully, one must let go fully. In order to give, one must first let go.

In order to die, one must let go of life in this realm.

In order to live fully, one must let go of any doubts, fears, ideas of self, expectations &/or preconceived notions about living &/or life, death and really anything in between.



Sometimes distance is needed in order to gain perspective.


A Mantra for The Past

It’s not what it was,
but it was what it was. 

The past is like a t-shirt one holds on to for a long time. It’s not like it was when it was first gotten, but the memories of that shirt still make it shine like it was brand new.


Just Be You

“Stop trying to be your self and just be.”

~Another quote from the lovely Light.

Don’t Forget…

Don’t forget to breathe.

Remember you have wings.

All is love.


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