Projecting Proportions of Expectations

Sometimes other people have different priorities than you. It is your decision to sometimes put their priorities ahead of yours, or not. But this can be a tricky thing.

For most of their life a friend of mine holds the priorities of others in higher esteem than their own. While again, this is each individual person’s choice, they’ve taken this thought process a step further and they have attached themselves to a projection of expecting others to do the same for them. Unfortunately for my friend, not everyone is inside their head to know this. But more importantly, this idea is not what is reality, which often creates suffering and tension. 

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  1. Rox
    Dec 12, 2015 @ 23:36:36

    Maybe those people got what they needed but your “Friend” has no Guardian Angel just a bunch of Leeches and no “Worthy” Gurus on the Planet. “Peers” but Sadly no worthy “Pioneers” nor Teachers to Learn from, maybe he has to be the “Master” he is SeeKinG

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    • Brycical
      Dec 13, 2015 @ 09:04:27

      Hi Rox. I appreciate your concern for this friend of mine. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and feelings.

      It seems like these words have struck a raw nerve chord somewhere within yourself. Long story short, I didn’t want to get into the many intricacies & delicate nature of my friendship with this person because, I’ll in my mind anyway, that’s not the point of these words or the blog.

      If you’d like, I can go into greater detail on another forum if this is something you’re wanting to talk about further.

      My intention wasn’t to put myself nor anyone else above my friend or below. Perhaps I could have put this whole scene in a more well-defined context. I gave this post more thought than usual as I recognized the potential challenges and misunderstandings this post might create, but at the same time I didn’t want to get super detailed so I painted in broad brush strokes in order to share the point of how certain thought patterns can breed expectation which usually causes suffering (in the Buddhist sense of the word).

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  2. Rox
    Dec 12, 2015 @ 23:33:21

    Seems unfortunate that your “Friend” has no Support

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